Sneak Peek
On TIGNUM’s B-LD KITCHEN Hub, our world-class Performance Specialists share their latest insights on human performance and discuss real-life experiences and best practices with industry leaders.
Here is a limited selection for you to explore:
A Life-Altering Vacation with Stephanie Lena
Stephanie Lena (Global Trial Program Head, Novartis) sits down with Scott Peltin to share her powerful story of how a new approach to a one-on-one vacation with her husband created the bond and partnership that helped her persevere through cancer shortly thereafter.
Stephanie shares the critical mindset skills and performance habits she developed and applied during her chemotherapy, including anchors, intention setting, and reframing.
Stephanie Lena, Global Trial Program Head, Novartis
In this episode, Stephanie Lena of Novartis sits down with Scott Peltin to share her powerful story of how a new approach to a one on one vacation with her husband created the bond and partnership that helped her persevere through cancer shortly thereafter. She goes on to share the critical mindset skills and performance habits she developed and applied during her chemotherapy including the use of anchors, intention setting, and reframing.
Her amazing story has made us all pause and think differently about how we'll approach our next vacation. We hope you'll do the same.
ABOUT TIGNUM THOUGHTCAST
TIGNUM ThoughtCast is a series of short interviews in which TIGNUM co-founder Scott Peltin sits down with friends, clients, and human performance experts to explore the application of Sustainable Human Performance.
The Leader's Loneliness
Leadership has many benefits, but it also has many challenges and many unfortunate truths. One of those unfortunate truths is that leadership can often be lonely. The fact is that the higher up you move on the leadership ladder, the lonelier it can be. In this TIGNUM Thought, Scott Peltin discussed how to deal with feelings of loneliness as a leader.
Leadership has many benefits, but it also has many challenges and many unfortunate truths. One of those unfortunate truths is that leadership can often be lonely. The fact is that the higher up you move on the leadership ladder, the lonelier it can be.
Being a leader involves having a high emotional load
In working with many CEOs and other members of executive leadership teams, we often help them deal with the complexity of emotions that come with being a leader. There are many hard decisions that, even on the best day, will be unpopular. This fear of being unpopular can contribute to a feeling of loneliness. There is also the issue of confidentiality. Due to the multitude of complications that any decision can have, leaders often have to hold their thoughts and decisions close to their chest until the final moment. This can contribute to a leader feeling deceitful, detached, and again, lonely.
Additionally, leaders must play a multitude of roles in a day. From being the ultimate decision-maker to being the motivator to just being an equal partner or, as many of us know, to just being an unprepared parent. As William Shakespeare described in Richard II’s dilemma: “Thus I play in one person many people, and none contented.” This lack of clarity can lead to feelings of loneliness.
Finally, there is the loneliness of insecurity. Having worked with many leaders and teams that have gone through significant reorganizations, we have seen how tough they are. For those who leave the company, there is the loneliness of leaving friends, leaving the company you have helped shape and build, and of course, leaving your source of income. For those who stay with the company, there is the loneliness of losing friends, losing familiar infrastructure and stability, losing the sense of security that existed before the big change, and having to develop all-new teams and support systems. For both those who stay and those who leave, the feelings of loneliness are completely normal.
Dealing with the loneliness that comes with being a leader
From a TIGNUM perspective, what can you do to help comfort these feelings?
First, acknowledge to yourself that these feelings exist because you are human. This means also accepting that these feelings come with the job and since you chose to be a leader, you must accept all that comes with that.
Second, embrace your lonely times as a great source of self-reflection, self-growth, and remotivating yourself for the future.
Third, take time to grieve the endings that come with being a leader (both through sadness and celebration). Being able to let go of the past is a critical step to being open to “try the untried” in the future.
Fourth, always remember that you are not your job, and therefore, maintaining a life away from your work is critical to staying grounded in who you really are.
Finally, make your own Sustainable Human Performance a priority. During times of loneliness, it is easy to sacrifice the habits you know are critical to building your energy, resilience, mental agility, and executional stamina. Without these things, you not only won’t be a great leader, but you also won’t be a great you.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Scott Peltin // Co-Founder and Chief Catalyst
As the Co-Founder and Chief Catalyst of TIGNUM, Scott has coached many top CEOs, executives, professional athletes, and others to Rule Their Impact. Scott’s unique blend of his 25 years in the Fire Service, education, and coaching experience helps him combine the art and science of Sustainable High Impact to help TIGNUM clients be better, for longer, when it counts the most.
ABOUT TIGNUM
TIGNUM is the major performance building block for business professionals, designed around a skill- and data-based approach that respects the individuality, focuses on the brain, evolves constantly, and creates lasting impact. Its international team comes from a wide range of fields, including human behavior, elite athletics, special forces, performance medicine, executive coaching, change consultants, and more.